Lead Yourself First The Lost Art of Self Leadership By Dan Webster

-A heart in trouble has flat-lined…it can’t feel deep emotion any more. Healthy hearts can feel the spectrum of emotion such as love, sadness,joy, excitement, anger and empathy. Hearts in trouble can’t celebrate even when life is wonderful. 

1.  A heart in trouble no longer engages in the moment or celebrates the
   good things of life. Healthy hearts have the ability to seize the day and
   be with people in the moment. In 1989 I didn’t want to be with people
   and, strange as it sounds, I sure wasn’t able to celebrate the miracle I
   was in the middle of leading.
2.  A heart in trouble no longer has room for fun, laughter or spontaneity.
   Healthy hearts don’t take life so seriously that they miss the fun of life.
   In 1989 everything was work to me, I couldn’t even spell the word fun.
3. A heart in trouble has lost compassion for those hurting. Healthy hearts
   don’t look at people in need as intrusions but are able to extend love
   and concern. In ’89 I could care less for kids, they were a burden.
4. A heart in trouble has lost the capacity to hear God’s voice and
5. respond. Healthy hearts are soft, attentive and open to the gentle
6. prompting of God.

When we mismanage our lives our hearts dry up and turn cold to both people and God. 

 How do we bring leadership to our hearts?

Leadership of the HEART
Here are a few tips for leading your heart:
First, be honest. If you read the list above and those five points describe your heart today…admit it. Admit it to yourself and your spouse or close friend. God told us that truth has the power to set us free. What is the
truth when it comes to your heart? How is your heart?

Second, own your life. Don’t expect anyone to rescue you. When I was a mess I wanted someone to notice and take me by the hand and help me.Forget it, life isn’t like that. No one is going to ‘save’ you. You must take responsibility for your life. Don’t blame others for your situation. Stop playing the victim role.

Third, create a plan.  The plan I created to get myself back together had many aspects to it. I asked for some time off. Fortunately, I had a three month sabbatical coming. Maybe you need to take a few vacation days to sort out where you are and what you can do to get back on track. A day to really think about your life and any changes you might need to make iswell worth it. Do you have a plan and when will you create one?

Forth, deal with your ‘stuff.’ During my time off I also decided to go to a Christian counselor and discuss my family of origin. I knew I had ‘stuff’ from my past that was contaminating my present. I had to courageously
go after my inner health. That experience was difficult but boy was it  worth it. Do you need to talk with anyone to help you sort out where you are and create a plan for your future? Who?

Fifth, rediscover play. I also attempted to rediscover play. Doing people work can steal your life. It often seems that the needs of people never end.If we don’t get enough legitimate fun fixes we will be
tempted to pursue illegitimate fun fixes that can lead to further trouble.

Sixth, reestablish quiet times with God. Modern culture can dismember our inner worlds if we allow it to.

10 poisonous terms you must not speak in a Job Interview

There’s abundance advice out there to prepare what you’re going to say in a job interview: study questions the interviewer might ask, carry out your answers and come up with relevant questions of your own…

However what about rehearsing what you’re not going to say?

I put together a list below of a few terms you’ll want to try to avoid at your next job interview, because even though they seem like just ordinary words, they could be major red flags for an interviewer or recruiter.

No:

First of all, if asked even an easy question, you don’t want to give a single word reply (yes or no). But when the answer is no, definitely don’t leave it there! For example, if asked if you know a particular computer program, and you don’t, you could say, “I haven't yet had a chance to learn it but would be interested to do so,” rather than simply saying “No.”

Er… Um…:

That old saying, “If you don’t have anything to say, don’t say anything at all,” applies here a big. Rather than hemming and hawing while you try to think up an answer, just be silent and think. Saying er or um too much could make you seem unprepared or as though you’re not paying attention.

Whatever, OMG, bae… groovy?:

Lose the slang when talking to an interviewer. You want to come across as polished and professional, and you don’t want them to have to dig out their urban dictionary to understand you.

Sure, cool, kinda…:

These kinds of words are just too casual, even in a casual workplace. You should be presenting the best version of yourself, not the sloppy, casual version.

We:

This one seems innocuous at first, but if you use it a lot when discussing job duties and accomplishments, the interviewer might start to wonder if it was you or your team that was responsible. Try to use “I” as much as possible.

Dedicated, motivated, team player...:

Lose the resume speech and jargon. Besides the fact that these words are incredibly overused in interview situations, they’re also better demonstrated than just stated. If you want to convey your dedication or motivation, share an example from your past work experience; examples will go much further to making your claims believable.

Leverage, synergy, ideation…:

I’d avoid using too much commerce jargon. The chances that you’ll come off sounding like an idiot are just too high. Too much business buzzwords or jargon tends to make people sound pretentious, or worse, downright stupid.

“Hit the ground running,” “Circle back…”:

These kinds of cliches have little to no meaning, they’re just verbal fluff, and they don’t add something to what you’re saying. So put down them out.

Hate:

I can’t think of a single case when saying you “hate” something in a job interview is correct, but it’s very unsuitable to say anything about hating your former job, co-workers, boss, etc.

Perfectionist:

It’s happen to almost a cliche in and of itself to answer a question like, “What’s your main flaw?” with a optimistic flaw like, “I’m a perfectionist.” Any good interviewer will see right through that, so just don’t do it.

Do you agree or disagree with this list? Any other words you’d insert? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

Frequently Asked Infosys Interview Questions

By leading Sklz
Infosys interview questions are very tricky and you need to do regular homework and hard work to crack the questions. Infosys is one of the leading multinational software companies that places a huge number of employees every year. This very company is tied up with a number of top Engineering and Management colleges in the country and a number of students from several institutions got placed in here every year. Getting placed at Infosys is like a dream come true and this is why this leading IT company is the main focus of so many students. So let us get a detailed look at the question pattern and types of Infosys interview questions and how to crack it as well.

A Brief Idea about the Infosys Interview

But it is not an easy task to crack Infosys interview at the first go. Since Infosys hugely deal with the fresh candidates and place the student through college campus interviews this is why its question pattern is a bit different from the other companies. Students are very much bothered about how they can crack the Infosys interview? How are the Infosys interview questions? Which pattern does it follow? How to get prepared for it and much more.

Two Rounds of the Infosys Interview

There are mainly two rounds in the interview process of this leading IT software company. The first round is Aptitude and the second round is HR interview.

• You must act in a very decisive manner in order to prepare for the Infosys interview questions. As we have already said earlier that the question pattern of Infosys interview is way different from other companies this is why while preparing for Infosys you must be dedicated to it.
• The best and the most interesting part of this company is that even being an IT solution company Infosys never asks questions on technical matters. This lessens the burden to a great extend however since the extend of reading reduces it is expected of a candidate to pay as much attention as possible so that he or she can deliver the best with full perfection.
• The specialty of Infosys interview questions is all the questions are very much practical most importantly the verbal part.
• In the question paper there is an English language test for which you have to be very good in grammar and vocabulary. This is at the same time the most scarring part that students can score 100% marks in this segment. So if you feel you are anywhere lacking in English start preparing a hit it at your best. You will face questions like correct the following sentence, write the synonyms of the words given, write the correct answer etc. More you practice these more you will become perfect and chances to score high will also increase.

After that comes the aptitude round which includes quantitative and logical questions. This part is to test and play with your brain and merit and this is the most tricky part of all the rounds. This is where they judge your analytical power and as well as how well you have prepared yourself.

After being successful in this segment the HR round interview starts an this round is way easier than the previous one and the questions are also much familiar. In this segment questions are of the regular interview types. Let us see the questions you may be asked in the HR interview round.

Common Infosys Interview Questions

As we have already said these questions are many familiar and friendly. You may be asked

• Tell me about yourself
• Your career goal
• Your hobbies
• They can even ask you about your family background- When they ask you about your family background, you need to be little clever. They do not prefer candidates with BUSINESS background. If your father is a businessman, make sure you are able to convince them that you are interested in working for them and you are not going to join your father’s business. Trust me, this is really a very important point you should keep in mind. Moreover, if you are the only child of your parents, please prepare yourself how you can convince them that being the only son/daughter wont be an issue anytime.
• Are you ready to handle a team under pressure? How would you manage your team
• What will be your motto to motivate your team?
• Do you get puzzled under pressure?
• What is your biggest strength and weakness?
• Tell us something about your biggest failure and achievement
• Why this college and this stream?
• Why Infosys?
• What do you know about Infosys?
• Why should Infosys hire you?
• Do you have any query?

Tricky Infosys Interview Questions

These very common and professional ones. Apart from that the company even asks you very friendly even sometimes funny question as well like

1. What is favorite movie and song?
2. Who is your favorite actor?
3. Which kind of movie you like to see?
4. Your dream vacation spot?
5. Your favorite cuisine?

As a whole the interview session of this company is not impossible to crack. All you need is to prepare yourself as well as possible and at the same time learning other tricks to crack an interview like fluent communication skill, presence, attire etc.